For Day 11’s prompt, I must admit I’m much better at helping other people identify these things for themselves than I am in identifying supports for myself. Do you have aftercare examples I can use as a jumping off point?
Hmm, good question Leslie. For me, I use a lot of body based care – like if I do something that feels like a big stretch, I’ll draw a bath or go swimming to give myself the sensation of gentle containment. I also enjoy baking or other handcrafts as a method of meditative labor which allows my thinking head to rest. I have an airy friend who schedules times to talk with her sisters as aftercare because that kind of familiar socializing feeds her after taking risk. Let me know if you need any other ideas!
Finally caught up after starting a few days late! Day 18 and reflecting on how I made the risky decision to unblock my ex a month and a half ago and it went BADLY. Throughout that time I just kept asking WHYYY? Why is this happening? I trusted that there was a reason why this thing went badly and even though I had a lot of negative feelings about it, overall, I felt certain that there was a good, deep why that I might not be fully aware of. Thankfully it has made me more trustful when things don’t work out… it’s like I trust that that why is in my best interest.
omg I love this story! (sorry, of course, that it was a negative experience) That particular type of acceptance without knowing the why is a hard place for me to get to at times, but once I do it’s like my whole body unclenches.
For Day 11’s prompt, I must admit I’m much better at helping other people identify these things for themselves than I am in identifying supports for myself. Do you have aftercare examples I can use as a jumping off point?
Hmm, good question Leslie. For me, I use a lot of body based care – like if I do something that feels like a big stretch, I’ll draw a bath or go swimming to give myself the sensation of gentle containment. I also enjoy baking or other handcrafts as a method of meditative labor which allows my thinking head to rest. I have an airy friend who schedules times to talk with her sisters as aftercare because that kind of familiar socializing feeds her after taking risk. Let me know if you need any other ideas!
Thanks, Athena! It is helpful to have a few different examples.
Finally caught up after starting a few days late! Day 18 and reflecting on how I made the risky decision to unblock my ex a month and a half ago and it went BADLY. Throughout that time I just kept asking WHYYY? Why is this happening? I trusted that there was a reason why this thing went badly and even though I had a lot of negative feelings about it, overall, I felt certain that there was a good, deep why that I might not be fully aware of. Thankfully it has made me more trustful when things don’t work out… it’s like I trust that that why is in my best interest.
omg I love this story! (sorry, of course, that it was a negative experience) That particular type of acceptance without knowing the why is a hard place for me to get to at times, but once I do it’s like my whole body unclenches.
Thanks for sharing